Comments on: FIELDNOTES FROM A FUNERAL: GRIEF, LOSS AND LEARNING https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning The Land and Its People Fri, 26 Sep 2025 03:49:22 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Ikla Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1649 Fri, 26 Sep 2025 03:49:22 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1649 This was refreshing and a good read while also leaving bits and pieces of nostalgia for anyone who has experienced the mourning days in this manner. I really appreciate your vulnerability as a niece to share about the moments which can be the most difficult time for your family. Navigating the culture of a community that one belongs to as a researcher is tricky but extremely important. Thank you for this insightful writing.

]]> By: Nanuma Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1624 Sat, 16 Aug 2025 06:28:29 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1624 In reply to Ashok Limboo.

Thank you, Mr Ashok Limboo. I am grateful for your words of appreciation and what you chose to see in them.

]]> By: Nanuma Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1623 Sat, 16 Aug 2025 06:25:21 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1623 In reply to Simon Subba.

Thank you for your condolences Mr. Simon Subba and also for those encouraging words. Will keep writing.

]]> By: Ashok Limboo https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1620 Mon, 11 Aug 2025 11:20:24 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1620 Your documentation of the Yakthung community’s death rituals is both insightful and sensitively presented. It not only preserves important cultural traditions but also helps readers appreciate the deep meaning behind each practice. I appreciate the respectful tone and the clarity with which you’ve conveyed the significance of the ritual in this community.I admire the strength and clarity with which you’ve shared your personal journey. Your experiences highlight important truths and offer encouragement to others facing similar paths.

]]> By: Simon Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1613 Tue, 22 Jul 2025 07:55:43 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1613 Dear Nanuma,

Firstly, my heartfelt condolences to the family members.

I truly enjoyed reading your article. What impressed me the most was seeing a young mind like yours taking the initiative to research and document our own community. As someone from the Limbu community, I feel that we still lack sufficient documentation, despite our rich language, culture, customs, and rituals.

It is essential for the younger generation to build on this foundation and work towards further development and preservation of our heritage.

Wishing you all the best, and I hope to see many more contributions from you to the Limbu community in the future.

Warm regards,
Simon Subba
📞 9732460023

]]> By: Nanuma Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1602 Sun, 20 Jul 2025 16:19:08 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1602 In reply to Jyotsna.

Dear Jyotsna, thank you for your condolences, will also pass it on to others with me. I honour how you have shared a small part of your grief here in this comments section. Thank you for your kind words on my work.

]]> By: Jyotsna https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1599 Sun, 20 Jul 2025 14:59:53 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1599 Dear Nayuma,

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family on the passing of your beloved Tumba.

Having experienced grief and traditional Kirati funeral rites myself, I connected with every detail you shared. The way the ceremony, and the community’s presence offer strength and closure is something I too have felt. It’s emotional, real, and grounding—helping us understand death in a profound way. There’s a unique gratitude that grows during these rituals—for the one we lost and for the people who help us carry the loss.

Thank you for writing with such honesty, depth, and care. Your work honours both your Tumba and the living culture of the Limboo people. I’m truly sorry for your loss, and grateful for your research.

Jyotsna

]]> By: Nanuma Subba https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1596 Sun, 20 Jul 2025 13:55:16 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1596 Dear Kalyani, thank you so much for letting me know that this little written piece resonated with you. Thank you for your deep appreciation. I am with you in our varied struggles and will continue to persevere.

]]> By: Kalyani Rai https://sikkimproject.org/fieldnotes-from-a-funeral-grief-loss-and-learning/#comment-1591 Sun, 20 Jul 2025 11:35:07 +0000 https://sikkimproject.org/?p=9070#comment-1591 This really strikes a chord with me. The way you navigated being both a researcher and a grieving niece. I felt that tension in every line. What occurred to me most was being relegated to the kitchen during mourning rituals. I’m Rai, and the similarities between our cultures are striking. I’ve experienced the same draw many a times, wanting to revolt against these gender roles during ceremonies but feeling trapped by tradition. There’s this constant battle between respecting our culture and questioning why women always end up in the background.
Your question about whether your agency is truly empowering or if you’re unconsciously internalizing the frameworks you want to dismantle, that exasperates me too. I think there’s something powerful in acknowledging we can’t cleanly separate ourselves from our subjects, especially when we are the subject.
What I love is how you’re not hiding behind academic language. You’re saying, this is messy, this is personal, and maybe that’s exactly where the most important insights live. Thank you for this Nanuma. It’s made me think differently about my own work and struggles with tradition versus progress in our communities.

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